Unconscious Manipulation

Unraveling the Grip of Unconscious Manipulation

In my last post, I talked about how I got caught up in playing manipulative games from as far back as when I was just three years old. Today, I want to share with you the shifts I've experienced in understanding and freeing myself from this behavior.

What I've Learned:

• When we keep thinking we need someone to rescue us, we end up blocking our own success and happiness.
• We can choose to stay stuck or decide to create a joyful, free, and successful life.
• These patterns might be the reason we struggle with depending too much on others or trying to control them.

Let me take you back to my childhood story. When I was three, my mom went on a trip and left me with my dad. I felt like she abandoned me, so I started making her feel guilty to get her attention. This started a pattern where I relied on her for everything, and she felt the need to always take care of me. It was like a game we were playing without even knowing it.

You know, sometimes people talk a lot about how bad being a narcissist is, but they forget that sometimes people become that way because of things that happened to them when they were younger. I might not be an expert, but I'm just beginning to understand this.

Now, let's talk about my sister. She was more attached to our dad, and when he passed away, he told her that she should trust in a higher power to take care of her. This changed everything for her.

On my side, things got really tough when my mom passed away. I had always believed that she would take care of me, and her passing made me panic. I started clinging to her things for comfort, but that didn't work. I just felt worse.

Recently, something clicked for me. My sister's experience with my dad's passing made me realize that I also need to let go and trust that everything will work out. I don't need to depend on someone else to save me.

What This Means for You:

• If you keep depending on others to help you, you'll always struggle.
• You have to decide whether you want to keep seeking sympathy from others or if you want to live a life of freedom and success.

I'm sharing my journey with you because I want you to see how the roles we take on and the choices we make shape our lives.

Our challenges show us what's really going on inside us. They help us realize when we're looking for happiness and abundance in the wrong places. They guide us back to what truly matters—our connection with our Creator.

Remember, when we start relying on things or people outside of ourselves, we're setting ourselves up for disappointment. The universe works in mysterious ways to show us that.

"When we make anything or anyone outside of us the source of our happiness or success, the Universe is set out to fail us in that area!" – Derek Rydel

What I've Seen in My Clients:

I've noticed similar patterns in my clients too. For example, one client struggled financially because of a memory from her childhood when she felt abandoned by someone close to her. This created a pattern of always depending on others for support.

Another client was very attached to her mom and had a fear of losing her. This fear was like my fear of needing to be saved. But with my help, she's learning to prioritize herself and her needs. She's realizing that she can trust in life and receive guidance.

So, what's the takeaway here? Letting go of the need for others to save us can transform our lives. We have the power to choose whether we want to stay small and dependent or break free into a life of abundance and success.

I hope sharing my journey helps you understand how the roles we play and the choices we make impact our lives. Our struggles are like signposts guiding us back to our true selves and to the ultimate source of everything—our Creator.

I leave you with these powerful words of my spiritual Guru, Wayne Dyer

“Good Morning                        

This Is God

I will be handling all your problems today. 

I will not need your help, so have a miraculous day.

With Gratitude and Awakening,