Letting go of being a Savior

Release the Role of Savior: Embrace Boundaries and Deflect Distractions

These past few weeks have been a whirlwind of events, leaving me pondering where to begin. In my previous blog, I delved into relinquishing the need to be a servant to others and choosing to master my destiny. Interestingly, shortly after that blog, life orchestrated a similar challenge that called for my attention.

Catch up on my previous blog here - Master of Your Own Destiny

Amidst my fasting month, I found myself in the midst of constant messages from someone. Despite my earlier explanation that my social media and messaging time would be limited, the messages persisted. These seemingly random and indirect messages gradually began to fray my focus. It was during a call with a client that reality struck—a message from this person materialized, causing a brief moment of distraction that hindered my client interaction. This was a revelation; a reminder that unwelcome intrusions can sway us from what truly matters. Thankfully, equipped with tools to repel unwanted energy, I swiftly redirected my focus to my client.

This moment marked a turning point, awakening me to the potency of even a seemingly harmless message. Without a solid grounding in our own truth, we can effortlessly veer off course, losing precious time and energy to the needs of others.

In response, I resolved to realign myself, cementing my truth and priorities. I stumbled upon Terri Cole's invaluable resources on YouTube. Her wisdom empowered me to stand steadfast in my feelings and assert my boundaries.

What became even more evident was that beneath these struggles lay co-dependent traits—a propensity to prioritize others over our own well-being, morphing into a self-imposed role of a savior.

Co-Dependency Unveiled

Certain traits hint at co-dependency:

• Difficulty articulating emotions.
• Eagerness to please all.
• Compulsion to mend others.
• Struggle with setting firm boundaries.
• Sacrifice of personal desires for others' comfort.
• Unwavering loyalty, often at the cost of oneself.

.Unearthing the Roots of Co-Dependency

In my programs, my clients uncover a hold that they may have that is preventing them from moving forward in life. And in this case, with one client, it showed up as if her mom was holding her by the waist to protect or save her in some way. This was preventing her from taking the leaps she needed in life and her business. We also uncovered a soul pattern that she had in deciding to save young girls from being manipulated.  As all this was still fresh in my mind, I was excited to get onto healing and clearing it. Knowing that, as I do the healing on myself it will assist the collective as well as my present and future clients.

My method is to ask how I may have this same pattern within me.

This teaching or practice I learned from Joe Vitale, Ho'oponopono certification course where he teaches us how a psychiatric doctor in Hawaii healed an entire ward of mentally challenged patients by practicing a technique called the Ho'oponopono 

As I asked this question myself, I dived deep into uncovering a soul memory I had, which appeared as a vision of girls being buried alive. This could be in the times of the early Arabs when they buried their daughters alive. I remember this always weighed heavy on my heart. I had a vision of this girl being buried and she is screaming and begging to be saved, her pleas just fell on deaf ears.

At that moment out of anger, hatred, and bitterness, she decided that,  If God won’t save us, I will!!! THAT WAS THE TIME SHE TOOK ON THE SAVIOR ROLE!

One of the most powerful moments in a person’s life is the moment a decision is made – good or bad!. A decision made from a state of anger, bitterness, or any negative emotion instantly disconnects us from our center, our true self, and from God! You start taking on a false self, more commonly known as you start wearing a mask. This is the real reason for our continued state of misery. How can a soul that has disconnected from its source ever feel happy and fulfilled?

The Key to Liberation is Reconnecting with Self

Our life challenges exist to steer us back to this truth. My own struggle with distractions and energy invasion—stemming from an unchecked message—spurred me to establish and safeguard my boundaries. When I communicated my stance, I faced backlash. Yet, a strong self-connection shielded me from negative judgments, reinforcing my resolution.

Unmasking Narcissistic Traits

Further exploration unveiled the role of a savior intertwined with a need to be saved. My introspection unearthed an inner narrative, one where I manipulated circumstances to ensure constant attention and care. This revelation aligned with narcissistic tendencies—a grandiose sense of self-importance, the quest for constant praise, and a relentless pursuit of admiration.

My journey has led me to confront these dynamics within, to shed roles that stifle progress and hinder authenticity. This voyage continues, a path of healing and self-discovery that I invite you to partake in

An inkling of narcissistic traits within this person prompted self-inquiry. Following Joe Vitale's technique, I unearthed a childhood memory where I manipulated my mother into constant attention. Accepting this truth enabled me to break free from this pattern and assert myself.

The Journey Ahead

As my journey continues, I now confront my dual role—savior and the one needing to be saved. Healing the latter aspect is my present pursuit.

Stay tuned for my next post to follow my progress.

Your insights and reflections on this post are invaluable. Feel free to share them.

Until next time,

Mariam Safla

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