Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs About Friendship: Embarking on a 100 Coffee Chat Challenge

Have you ever been told that friends are unnecessary, that they can't be trusted, or that you should keep things “in the family”? Many of us grow up with beliefs like these that influence how we approach relationships, often without even realizing it. For me, the message was clear from a young age: *“Cousins are your friends; you don’t need anyone else.”* This mindset was ingrained so deeply that it became my approach to relationships, guiding how I connected with people for much of my life.

Even as I got older and married, I found myself gravitating only toward family, seldom venturing beyond those boundaries. I love people and enjoy connecting, sharing stories, and learning about others’ lives. But an invisible wall always stood between me and deeper friendships outside of family ties. My heart longed for real connection, yet a fear rooted in these old beliefs kept me at arm’s length.

A few years back, I completed a Money Archetype assessment and discovered that *Connection* was at the bottom of my list. This was an area I needed to develop to unlock true abundance in my life. My Human Design as a 4/6 Manifesting Generator also highlighted connection as essential to my unique design. Yet, connecting deeply with others felt challenging—limited by ingrained beliefs that friends are not to be trusted, ran deep in my family patterns.

To begin transforming these beliefs, I replaced my old mantra with a new one: *Friends are amazing; they open doors to new opportunities.* I realized that while not everyone may have our best intentions at heart, it’s possible to find aligned souls who value trust and mutual support. This shift in mindset helped me not only to feel more open but also to connect with people who shared a similar vision and journey.

Then I heard Kaley W Chu’s story. She had lunch with 100 strangers to overcome her own fears of connecting with people. Her journey struck a deep chord within me—what if I could break free from my own long-held belief that friendships outside family weren’t needed? What if I could reignite my love for people and learn to connect again, from a place of authenticity?

This led me to embark on my own journey: *100 Coffee Chats*.

The goal? To connect with 100 new people over coffee, either virtually or in person. But this mission goes far beyond casual conversation. Beneath each chat lies a deeper intention—to shatter the old belief that kept me guarded and closed off, and to explore genuine connection with an open heart and an authentic curiosity about others.

This journey is about learning to give and receive in ways that nourish rather than drain, and about connecting with people who uplift and support each other’s growth. I want to create friendships where both giving and receiving flow naturally, where there’s no expectation other than genuine care and shared support. For so long, I struggled with fears that people would take too much from me, that true friendships would require more than I had to give. But over time, I’ve learned that true giving isn’t about obligation or guilt—it’s about sharing from a place of fullness, with no strings attached.

Healing these old beliefs about friendship and connection has been transformative. I no longer see others through a lens of judgment or suspicion. Instead, I view each person as a light, a soul on their journey, just as I am. From this space of seeing and receiving each other’s light, true connections can flourish. I’ve worked through the notion that people only want something from me, and now I embrace the chance to share and connect, knowing I can protect my energy while allowing myself to be genuinely open.

For me, these coffee chats are not just about “networking” or expanding my social circle. They are a journey of self-discovery, healing, and abundance. With each conversation, I’m reminded that connecting with others opens us up to the world in ways we can’t imagine when we’re closed off. When we allow ourselves to be seen and heard, we open the door to new opportunities, growth, and, yes, abundance.

There’s no strict timeline for completing this challenge, though I hope to reach my goal in the next year or two. Along the way, I’ll share my reflections and experiences—moments of joy, lessons learned, and the deep fulfillment that comes from true connection. I hope these stories inspire you to reflect on your own beliefs around connection. Perhaps you, too, were taught to hold back, to be cautious, or even that true friendship isn’t worth the risk.

These beliefs may be standing between you and the life you want—the relationships, opportunities, and abundance that come when we connect with others with an open heart. So, if you share these values and goals, please feel free to help me with this challenge by booking a coffee chat with me. I would love to connect with like-minded souls and share this journey together. Book a Coffee Chat.

Here’s to healing, opening our hearts, and finding the beauty in each connection, one coffee chat at a time.

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